Choosing to Brake

This post by Summer Wilson originally appeared on the Transparency Project.

There are times in life when it seems like all the things are going perfectly.

Granted, they don’t happen often, but they DO happen.

Green lights the whole way to work.

The kids play a game together and LAUGH a lot!

The husband brings you flowers just because and says, “I appreciate your sacrifices.”

All on the same day!

Then there are times when it is evident that you need to step back and take inventory of how life is going and ask the tough questions.

Are we doing okay? How can we get back on track? What can I do to press into the hearts of my family more? Why are we arguing so much? What’s missing?

I’m going to be frank with you, this is where we’re at. Being a parent is challenging, to say the least. There is NOTHING out there that could have ever prepared me for all the stuff that is thrown at us by our kids. Sure, there are little jokes & memes, parenting books and seminars, but really, not one thing out there written or taught by someone else that can truly address the hardships we face with OUR OWN children.

Why? Because our hearts and souls are attached to them. Somehow even our breathing fluctuates based on their behavior, tone of voice, decision-making and overall existence.

It’s ironic, isn’t it? From the get-go, we’re taught to think that we can control them; we can train them to sleep, we teach them manners, we instruct them in life skills, yet SOMEHOW, they still manage to keep us on our toes and give us the biggest joys and overwhelming heartaches. Just by being themselves. No instructing necessary.

In our home we have been bombarded by a lot of the latter at a rapid-fire pace by more than one child. I feel tired when I need to be strong. I struggle to come up with a little encouragement when ALL encouraging is needed. And, to be honest, I find I want to turn away when they need my attention. That is not how I want to “mom”.

So for now, I’m choosing to “brake”.

I’m taking some time to go offline, dig deep into the Word, press into the hearts of my family and re-learn how to meet their needs and love them well. Sometimes when Mom gets wrapped up in goals and dreams, she misses out on the blessings right in front of her.

That’s been me…

…focused on what I want to do to make ME happy and missing out on those things that God brought into my life as joy-givers to begin with.

Are we going through an ‘off’ season because of the pursuit of my dreams? NO!

But, like it or not, a mom tends to be the anchor in the family. When was the last time mom was a hot mess and the family didn’t go into all-out chaos? Or how about that time the kiddo got hurt? Who kissed it and made it better? And when, for Pete’s sake, was the last time Mom used the bathroom uninterrupted by matters that ANY OTHER PERSON could theoretically solve?? Kids need their mom.

Motherhood is a privilege and a huge responsibility. We MUST make sure we’re taking care of ourselves AND be aware of and available for the family’s ongoing needs.

And yes, it can be overwhelming.

Friends, a mother’s job is not easy. It can be incredibly gut-wrenching. But don’t run away from it. You’re the only one who they call “Mom”. No one can do your job like YOU.

I pray the Lord’s blessings and wisdom on you as you raise your children.

May He guide us well!




My hope is that my “brake” time is just a temporary hiatus; a time to stop, evaluate direction and then move on. Please pray for me too!

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